How to Accomplish Goals whether Financial, Personal or Career related
Do you have all the money that you’d like? Does it come to you easily?
But what is money exactly?
Money is a tool we use to measure the value of things.
The money you earn is a compensation for the value you provide.
If you trade your time for money, which is what we call a job, then the amount you earn is limited by your physical presence, the usefulness of your work, the ability to replace you, and the quality of your work.
Even if you are a lawyer who charges $1000 per hour, you are still limited by the number of hours in your week.
So the key to making a lot of money is somewhere else.
What you need to do in fact is to detach your income from your physical presence.
How do you do that? You create information product! It includes blogs like this one, songs, books and eBooks, online courses, reviews, etc.
Of course, this requires some upfront work. But once your product is recorded, it’s simply a matter of selling it. And if you created something of value, it will be no problem to find people to sell it for a percentage of the profits.
So again, just like your salary, it’s a matter of value. When you work at a job, you get paid for the value you provide in return of your time spent at work.
When you sell information products, you get paid for the value you provide to each individual who is interested by your product.
Makes sense?
But you don’t focus on making money, you focus on adding value. Put your attention on helping others. Ask yourself how you can help people doing what you love.
Of course, the main challenge will be to find the persistence to create a quality product.
This requires time and effort, so that’s when this course comes in!
It gives you the tools you need to stay focused and to bring your project to completion.
Another important aspect of earning money is to have the right mindset. As you will see in the course, what you believe is crucial in the determination of the outcome.
If you don’t believe that you can earn a lot of money, by creating an information product or by doing anything else, you won’t even AIM at making a lot of money.
So I hope that you dream requires a lot of money. Because if it does, and as you visualize it more and more, your requirement for more money will increase as well.
And when you have a need, you brain will automatically start looking for ways to fulfill that need.
Your mindset will gradually shift to welcome ideas of wealth.
And the ability to handle a lot of wealth is closely related to personal growth.
As T Harv Eker says it: if you work hard on your job, you make a living, but if you work hard on yourself, you make a fortune.
When you start working on yourself, through meditation and exercise, or by expanding your knowledge, you’ll naturally attract opportunities.
Focus on feeling worthy and you will become what you visualize.
How to Set Your Goals and Achieve Them? Celebrate!
In the beginning I often forgot to celebrate my successes.
In fact, my entire concept of successes was screwed up. I saw success as a major accomplishment that had to be absolute perfection to be worth anything at all.
I only started moving forward after I recognized success as:
Something small
Something imperfect
A process
Success is not getting to the top of the ladder; success is every additional ladder rung that is now behind you.
You must have heard the cliché that success is not a destination; it is a journey. Well, I can assure you that you won’t find true happiness until you understand the full extent of that quote.
There is always more you can get, more you can achieve, so you’d better enjoy the process because you will never reach the ONE final goal!
It never stops because not wanting expansion means entropy and death. This is the basic nature of our ever-expanding spirit!
Simply doing this program is a success in itself. Even if that’s all you do toward your personal development, that’s already a big achievement.
Most of our subconscious minds are programmed to disregard “small” successes and keep us in procrastination.
But, if you start celebrating even your smallest successes, you will gradually gain momentum and realize bigger and bigger accomplishments.
A common problem is the failure to see the connection between the small steps and the big goal.
The most important part is to BELIEVE in your dream! Because if you don’t believe you can achieve it, you won’t put in the efforts to realize it.
Belief is what will lift you up the ground until you see the materialization of your efforts.
Oprah herself said it: you don’t get what you want, you get what you believe!
In order to believe, you need to act as if the accomplishment was a given fact, which it is if you act towards it!
That’s what differentiates successful people from others who aren’t; your reaction when you face adversity. Those who keep going eventually succeed, it is a law.
Think about all the visionaries, the inventors and the idealists. Most people thought they were crazy at first. Nobody could ever invent a flying machine. There’s no way we could be connected to all the data in the world on a wireless device. All races will never be treated in the same manner.
All successes really are a matter of WHEN they will come to fruition, not a matter of WHETHER they are possible or not.
Bob Proctor’s definition of success is: The PROGRESSIVE realization of a worthy ideal. The important word here is “progressive”. You are successful as long as you try, you have failed only when you quit, and you keep trying until you believe it is possible!
As I said initially, what matters now is to celebrate. We need to improve our definition of success by celebrating every step of the way. That way, you remain motivated along the way and your perseverance doesn’t wane because the goal seems to be far and unreachable.
The reward needs to be proportionate with your action. It doesn’t matter so much if you lie to your life coach. What matters tremendously though is if you lie to yourself!
Are you proud of your accomplishments? Are you proud to have taken the first step towards your big dream?
If you have taken the actions you were supposed to, go ahead and enjoy the reward you promised yourself!
If not, you have to be fair with yourself and postpone the reward you have accomplished what you were supposed to.
I’m realizing more and more the importance of having a personal development coach to keep evolving. I just finished reading Who Are You Really and What Do You Want by Shad Helmstetter: a powerful book on self-talk and the importance of having a coach. Incidentally, I’m in the 5th week of my coaching program with Peak Potentials. I had life coaches in the past, I didn’t really see the need to have one now, but boy oh boy is it catapulting me at exponential speed!
It started by a resistance of having to report daily. I find that I already report to myself enough and I didn’t need someone else to keep me in check. I feared that this would add to the pressure I’m already putting on myself to perform. When I openly admitted to my coach that I didn’t want to report on my daily activities, I also opened up to understanding a deeper meaning to this repulsion.
Not reporting to someone else was in fact a way to keep lying to myself into the belief that I was making a lot of effort. When I got that out of my system, I realized that I could ask a lot more of myself… and it didn’t feel demanding at all! In fact, it’s even fun and exciting to exceed the daily and weekly objectives that I set for myself! I’ve also introduced the concept of weekly rewards (I treat myself to a nice restaurant) but I feel that I don’t even need external rewards that much. The simple feeling of pride in beating my weekly goals is enough satisfaction to keep me going and constantly aim higher.
I feel that I’m redoing part of my education. Something went wrong in my initial programming regarding effort and rewards and I have to set that straight. This comparison might sound weird but it feels like training a dog. The reward or the punishment need to come right after the good or bad behaviour. Your window of opportunity to show a dog he did something right or wrong is very narrow. Well I’m applying a similar concept for my efforts. If I do something positive, such as an effort in the right direction of my personal development, I treat myself to something good. If I don’t do what I should be doing, then I don’t allow myself the reward.
That’s how it started at least. Because very quickly, I didn’t need to grant myself physical rewards and the simple pride of knowing that I am on the right track is enough to keep me going. I feel like I’m the parent of my inner child and I’m re-educating and re-programming him so that he enjoys making efforts in order to grow.
This is crucial in setting up passive income streams because it’s a lot of upfront work before results show. I believe that being able to discipline ourselves is crucial in succeeding a passive income project. Bob Proctor says it time and again: “Discipline is the ability to give yourself a command and follow it.” And I can now grasp the full extent of this quote as I am now starting to get scared to see less and less limits to where I can go!
I feel I’m facing the biggest wall in my life so far. I wrote on self-help perseverance a few months ago, and on self-help frustration also. But what I am feeling now is much bigger than that. In the last few weeks I kept asking myself how to achieve goals when persistence fails.
I discovered Bob Proctor 10 months ago and attended 2 of his seminars. I learned about T Harv Eker 4 months ago and also attended 2 of his seminars. I posted videos on YouTube on how to become a millionaire, I bought self-help programs, I read and reread books, I tried hypnosis, I do positive affirmations in the mirror, I journal my mental bank daily, I do reiki weekly and I tried countless others things more or less seriously.
I have to admit that I easily get bored with anything. I need intense action in my life and constant change keeps me entertained. This quality is useful to get started with a project, but it’s more complicated when comes the time to carry it through. Knowing that any project of significant scale is achieved with perseverance, how do I cope with the rapid lost of interest?
Like most people, I feel super empowered after attending a personal growth seminar. The problem is that this enthusiasm quickly fades after I come back home. A trick would therefore be to attend seminar after seminar on an extended period of time to let permanent change in habits settle in. Of course, this alternative is expensive and your current job might not allow the amount of time off it requires. I did subscribe to the Quantum Leap program with Peak Potentials, which includes 5 seminars, and 12 weeks of coaching. The structure of the program greatly helps to sustain the level of energy required to install permanent change into someone’s life.
I also mastermind weekly with my best friend who is also a Quantum Leap member. I talked before about the importance of accountability partners and I consider myself excessively lucky to have someone to share my progress with.
Nonetheless, I feel discouraged that things aren’t moving fast enough. My new awareness of the freedom that comes with passive income and with recovering my abandoned personal power wants to be fulfilled right now and not with months and months or even years of effort. The information that I came across with in the last year is too valuable to remain unexploited. Putting in the efforts to permanently change is definitely worth the resulting freedom afterwards. But I still feel scared that I won’t achieve my goal. Scared that I will abandon along the way because the upfront efforts are too important before change is observed.
I now understand better why so few people truly make the change in their lives to follow their passions, become financially independent and enjoy freedom in every aspect of their lives. Overcoming our old paradigm is probably the most difficult challenge we can accomplish in our lives.
Still, I realized yesterday that I could decide to be done with the struggle. I can decide now to live a reality where I’m already living my passionate life and I already have all the money and freedom that I need. This is how to achieve goals: change your mindset and perceive success as already attained. My reiki session was absolutely beautiful yesterday and I feel that something important in my life has begun. I feel that my heart is more opened and that I am better at receiving. I’m excited to see what’s coming up for me. And that excitement is what allows me to keep going.
I just came back from Mission to Millions: A Life Directions Intensive seminar. Once again, Peak Potentials over delivered! Like with the other seminar that I did with them: Millionaire Mind Intensive, I felt like leaving on the first day. Not that the seminar wasn’t interesting, but rather because my paradigm (my existing beliefs) doesn’t want things to change. It is naturally resistant to new information that challenges the existing beliefs, even if the new information is better than the old one. I’m always amazed to witness the persistence of the bad programming that lives inside of us.
When I got to the seminar, I had already visualized a clear picture of what I wanted to do in life for over a year: I wanted to become a trainer just like Bob Proctor. The perfect life I had been visualizing was a picture with a lot of details to ensure that my mind had a definite image to work with. On the second day of the seminar though, that picture was shattered. We did many exercises that made me question my project and someone told me that I was in the process of painting a beautiful piece of art but that it was still incomplete.
Letting go of such a reassuring clear picture can be very panicking. Luckily for me, because of my awareness in how I function, I wasn’t too distracted by the uncertainty that comes with letting go. I know that being in the unknown is a place of greater open-mindedness. So I continued forward. There was also a bunch of life coaches present at the event so I went to see some of them to get reassurance. They told me what I already knew, which was to keep moving forward. Even while feeling totally disoriented, I continued crafting my vision and writing what my subconscious was telling me.
And that’s where the magic happened. Because my mind was so opened, because I had made room and let go the old picture, I had what we call a “download”. The words came out naturally, without having to think about them. It’s an experience that is quite difficult to explain, and I think you really have to experience it in order to fully understand it. It feels like the words come out from directly from the heart, without even going through the brain. They go directly from the heart, bypassing the brain, actioning the hand that’s writing. So here’s what my heart told me my mission is:
“My Mission is to Transcend who I am, to Touch millions of people, to Move them and to Ignite in them the desire to Elevate themselves.”
Once my mission was determined, which represents the destination, we had to come up with the vehicles to get there, also called the vision. I struggled a little bit more with that part. The speaking career was still present, but writing a book felt like a step that had to occur beforehand. Strangely, I don’t really “feel” like writing a book and going through the writing process, which I perceive as long and boring. But I still feel that this is part of my mission to write something, so I know this will happen.
On top of all these personal discoveries, we also had many exercises to strengthen our learning. I already talked about the energy of live seminars. I must say that Peak Potentials are excellent at translating theory into powerful anchoring exercises. They keep saying that: “What you hear, you forget; what you see, you remember; what you do, you understand” and I totally believe in that. In my heart, Bob Proctor remains the master of theory, but T Harv Eker’s seminars offer the best tools to implement that theory.
An example of this is the drawing we made to express our vision. I rarely think about “drawing” my journal but this allows the representation of concepts that often cannot be expressed with words. So here’s what I drew at the seminar when I was totally lost regarding what the vehicle for my mission should be.
This drawing allowed me to see my priorities in life. More than anything, it showed me what I want to “BE” instead of what I want to do or have, like we usually focus on. On the picture, we can see me represented by the Yin Yang for inner peace. This theme kept coming back in all my exercises so I can now clearly see that I need to channel greater energy into improving my inner peace. My drawing also shows the earth energy moving up and the cosmic energy moving trough me. The smiling faces below me represent my students. We can also see my books taking flight, my home full of love, my heart expanding and my connection with animals, which is a new theme that surprised me. Finally, the plane represents all the travel I want to do and we can even see my diplomatic passport at the bottom, which I deeply wanted many years ago, but had long forgotten about. I don’t understand exactly what all of this means, but one thing is for sure: I am totally in love with this drawing! I feel like a child who is so proud of what he drew that the most natural thing is to share it with the world! I posted the original next to my bed to visualize it mornings and nights. I definitely want to move towards the state of BEING represented on my drawing.
Another thing we learned at the seminar is the correct order in which things should happen. Most people want to “have” a lot of possessions or wealth in order to “be” loved or to believe they are worthy. We also learned that happiness arises from the reverse equation, which is to “be” what we want first in order to “do” what we love which will produce the wealth we will “have”.
This is just a quick overview of what happened at the Mission to Millions seminar. Obviously, you get greater results if you have an open mind and have already worked on what you want to do in life. But the money invested to attend is totally worth it. If you want, you can start by the Millionaire Mind Intensive seminar, which is free. That will give you a good taste of what you can expect at Mission to Millions.
If you are interested in learning more about finding your life’s purpose, my book Grow With the Flow gives you many concrete exercises to do so.
Otherwise, let me know what other great seminars and books have helped you move forward in finding your life’s purpose. I struggled so long to find what I want to do in life that I now feel the desire to help others find their own missions!
Have you ever asked yourself how money and personality are linked together? Here are some thoughts on that:
Money is a measure for growth. In order to earn a lot of money, you need to have the mindset for it. And in order to have the required mindset, you need to grow. Depending on how you were programmed when you were young (what you were told and what you saw), you’ll need to observe these beliefs and change them for more prosperous ones. Having the personal discipline to decide which thoughts you allow in your mind or not is quite a challenge. But if you master this, you’ll slowly realize that you can achieve whatever you want and become whoever you desire.
Money is energy. You don’t focus on making money, you focus on adding value. Put your attention on helping others. Ask yourself how you can help people doing what you love. I suggest you read my article on Finding Your Life’s Purpose through Giving for more info on that. Once you’ve found what to give, ask yourself how you can help 10 times more people. Then always multiply that number. Providing service to the largest number of people will come back to you in greater wealth.
Make sure that you focus on growth, because whatever you focus on expands. If you get excited about your objective, you’ll reach it faster. And if you focus on your problems, you’ll worsen them by giving them extra energy. As I said, disciplining your mind is a challenge, but it’s important to choose our battles wisely. If you want to determine which battles you should fight and which not, picture yourself beyond the obstacle and ask yourself if, once the issue is resolved, the energy you spent was worth it.
An important aspect of accumulating wealth is to separate yourself from it. When you start taking action outside of your comfort zone, you are bond to make mistakes. That’s fine. That’s part of the learning process. But you need to realize that the amount you earn does not define who you are. Your self worth does not equal your net worth.
I talk a lot about increasing my wealth and I’d like to say why I believe this is so important. I heard from T Harv Eker that if you work hard on your job, you make a living, but if you work hard on yourself, you make a fortune. I’ve always been a great personal growth enthusiast, and now I realize that personal growth is tied to personal wealth. Read my article titled Fearless Millionaire which talks about the link between fear and wealth. When you start working on yourself, through meditation and exercise, or by expanding your knowledge, you’ll naturally attract opportunities. Focus on feeling worthy and you will become what you visualize.
Lastly, if you think you don’t have enough time to spend on creating wealth, I believe the opposite. Having passive income streams frees up your time to do anything you want and really enjoy life. Of course, the initial effort will require some time on your part. But what is it to invest a few hours to get things started and enjoy a permanent vacation afterwards? So it’s all a matter of setting your priorities right and recognizing that time invested now multiplies exponentially in the future.
You can watch my video on Changing Your Mindset to Become a Millionaire
Many people are impressed by the level of action that I take in my life. If I feel like doing something, I do it! It doesn’t matter if it involves selling my condo with all my belongings in it, moving to a different country, being unemployed for a while, or any other uncertainty. What I see as simply following my heart, others see as a risk they are not willing to take. The truth is that you shouldn’t afford NOT to take risks. In order to increase your wealth and success, you need to take more risks. If you remain along the shore, you will never discover the very best of you. If you believed that in order to live a better life, you had to make the sacrifice of being unemployed and studying for a few years, you must realize that you took the risk that things could have not worked out for you. Yet, you took the chance and you studied. You should also understand that in order to be wealthier, you need to find the time to study how wealth is acquired. It’s the same concept, it’s just that one is more popular than the other.
Raise Your Awareness
In T Harv Eker’s interview with Keith Cunningham, Keith describes how he made – and lost – a fortune by taking risks. He says the key is developing the awareness of HOW to earn vast sums of money. Once you know how, even if you lose it, you will regain it easily because your mindset has expanded. Bob Proctor keeps saying that people don’t earn $50,000 a year because they want to, they earn that much because they’re not AWARE of how to earn $50,000 a MONTH! Keith also says that the lessons from losing money are incredible… and I believe him! I’ve learned a lot more in losing money than in earning it. It’s like learning anything: if you can get beyond the scare of making mistakes, then you can go forward. I wrote an article on “learning to do things badly” which you can read by following the link for Self-Help Perfectionism.
I also talk about the importance of taking action in my book on finding your life’s purpose, Grow With the Flow. Keith also says that: “One step in the right direction is worth a hundred years of thinking about it.” In my life, I never regretted anything. I believe regretting is a matter of choice and I choose to learn from my mistakes. Because the times when I lost a lot of money or spent more than I should have thought me a lot. I’m now unlikely to do the same errors again, or at the very least I will do much better next time. Willingness to make mistakes is a secret to wealth because it allows you to ACT.
Learn to Love Money
Now, take a few minutes to write down all your beliefs around money. Do you believe that earning money requires hard work? Do you believe that wealthy people are mean and greedy? Are these beliefs serving you well? All your beliefs, even though you don’t think about them consciously, play a huge role in shaping your daily actions and thoughts. If you don’t believe that you can earn a lot of money, you won’t even entertain thoughts that could make you earn a lot of money. Money is like a lover or health, you have to treat it right for it to stay with you. I used to trick myself into thinking that I was “ABOVE” money, while I subconsciously was enslaved by it. I desperately needed to have a lot of money and to be “generous” to show others how careless about material things I was. I was acting in the opposite way of what I was thinking deep down inside. Now that I’ve let this belief come to the surface, I’ve been able to let it go and truly reestablish a sane relationship towards owning money. I see money as it is: a tool that increases my comfort and allows me to provide service beyond my physical presence. Money is my measure for personal growth. The more I grow, the greater receptacle for money I become. I now see my fears as exciting challenges to overcome because I know that overcoming them will make me a better, freer and richer person.
Once you become aware of your negative beliefs around money, you need to let them go. Most people see this process as long and difficult, but it can also be very quick and easy. If you trusted someone for 30 years, but suddenly realized that they were screwing you, you would stop trusting them right away. You can go the same with your liming beliefs. You should read my article on the Sedona Method to learn a very simple and effective technique to let go.
What risks are you willing to take in your life to increase wealth and success? You can start small, but be aware that “Behind your greatest fear, lies your greatest gift.”
I am fascinated by the concept of becoming rich. What’s very intriguing is that the further I move towards my goal, the deeper my understanding of wealth gets, the more detached from the money I become. Instead, my mind is attracted by concepts of freedom, personal development, overcoming my fears and growing. Money is becoming a side benefit, a tool required for freedom instead of a main objective.
I am very attracted by T Harv Eker’s teachings. First, because his seminars and books are definitely centered on ACTION. I hear so many people who know exactly what to do but don’t do it. And most people who don’t know what to do are simply unaware that they pretending not to know, so they don’t feel the guilt of not acting.
Pay Attention to Your Environment
The five months I spent living in a rich neighbourhood in California were extremely insightful for me. These few months contributed to changing so many prejudices I had about rich people. First of all, most rich people are extremely nice and helpful: they want people around them to succeed! It makes a lot of sense: if they succeeded themselves, that’s because they were nice and other nice people helped them out! I used to see rich people as competitive and ruthless, only striving to make the most money. That’s because my OWN mindset was oriented that way.
T Harv also says that environment is stronger than willpower. That also makes a lot of sense! When I went to high school, I was in a stronger academic program. I did only one class with the regular students and I was so bored!! The pace of the class wasn’t fast enough so my grades went down! The power of our environment is very strong! Often more than we realize. I heard countless time that we earn the average salary of our 5 to 10 closest friends. So take ownership of your life and start hanging out with the people you admire!
Become aware of your background
Another very important step in the process of becoming wealthy is recognizing what background we come from in order to release ourselves from the influence it still exerts on us. Examine the beliefs your parents have around money and you probably also have 90% of them. That’s because we are mentally programmed at a very young age and in many ways we’re not aware. To know more about this, read my article on Subconscious Mind Childhood. You also need to be aware that what you were told might not be the only programming that got into your head. For instance, I was never told that money was scarce, but I could easily feel the anxiety around a potential lack that could happen at any time. I therefore registered that the flow of money can stop at any time, and that I should hide my fear that this possibility might occur.
Start Managing Your Wealth NOW!
An important point in accumulating wealth is to manage what we already have. As T Harv Eker says, it’s like claiming that we will exercise once we have lost 20 pounds! It’s obviously the other way around! We need to “exercise” our money management skills BEFORE we create wealth. I only recently understood that concept and it makes so much sense! A year ago, I had plenty of money and I thought that behaving like a rich person (according to my idea of what a rich person was back then!) would keep me rich. How wrong was I! Now that I am in debt, I understand the importance of managing everything, no matter how “small” the fortune. (I’m now kind of FORCED to do it anyway!) We obviously know that Oprah can pretty much afford anything she wants, but I also know that she loves discounts and she will only buy something if the price really corresponds to the value she is getting in return. Being rich, contrary to what I thought for a long time, does not mean spending carelessly.
Small Decisions Add Up!
We also need to understand the major impact that very small decisions have in the long run. For example, if you were to stop buying a $3.50 latte today and everyday, and you instead invested the money at an 8% interest rate, you would have… an astonishing $250,000 in 30 years!! Pretty incredible isn’t it? The problem is that our mind doesn’t add up the small details and doesn’t see how tiny actions, when added together over time, can yield humongous change! Think of it another way: if you were to fly from New York City to San Francisco, but the plane went just a few degrees to the left, you would end up in Mexico! When considered on large scales of time and distance, small differences end up changing results big time! So don’t underestimate the small changes you make in your life. I started this blog in October 2013 with the discipline of writing every 1 or 2 days and I am amazed at how much I have written! I wrote over 100 articles now, which is roughly 40,000 words! That’s the equivalent of a novel. There is no way I would have written than much by sitting down, 6 months ago, thinking that I had to write a novel. But by doing a little bit every day, I never even realize that I was writing so much! I kept it fun! I made sure every day was a great day, and I ended up living a great year! In the long run, I know this will add up to a great life!
And now, what about you? What are your big stumbling blocks around money? Are you aware of your programming and childhood beliefs? What are your next steps in acquiring wealth?
Rich Thinking Poor Thinking. I just finished reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker. It struck me to realize how rich thinking differs from poor thinking in so many ways! He says for instance that poor people focus on their salaries, while the rich on their net worth. That’s a major difference! Instead of focussing on how much you earn, you focus on how much you’re worth. When focusing on what you earn, if you do end up earning more, you will simply increase your spendings simultaneously and will only see little difference. But when you focus on what you accumulate, you have a real incentive to increase your wealth! And it is so important to do so! I used to think that wealthy people were mean and greedy, but I don’t believe that anymore. I heard many times that money doesn’t change you, it simply amplifies the person you already are. So if you are a nice person, and have a lot of money, you’ll have the opportunity to be even nicer!
Another important point in the book is the “both” and “either/or” mentality. Poor people think in “either/or”, which means that they need to sacrifice something in order to get something else. On the other hand, rich people think “both”, meaning that they think creatively to come up with alternatives that will allow them to get both options they desire. The belief that I cannot have everything is a strong one in me. I did a little research and I found out that I’m not alone! The saying: “You can’t eat your cake and have it too” exists in many other languages, in very interesting variations. In French, the expression is: “You can’t have the butter and the money for the butter” And I like the version of Venezuela which goes: “You cannot have the bottle full and the girl drunk.”
I find it very sad that we are so conditioned to play small and to satisfy ourselves with as little as possible. I have grand ambitions and I’m proud of them because they allow me to grow and to become a better person. I wrote in my article Fearless Millionaire that wealth and fear are closely related. Bob Proctor also says time and again that goals are not for getting: they are made for expansion. I realize now more than ever that this is true. And I see what Marianne Williamson meant when she wrote that “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” The more I break through my fears, the more I regain my power and the more I see no limit to where I can go and to what I can do. When I started my Master’s Degree in International Relations, I laughed at people who said they wanted to “save the world!” Now I see that this is part of my desires and I want to acquire massive wealth to do my share in distributing it more evenly on earth. I see this as a very important role I have to play.
And you? What are your beliefs and desires around money? Can you easily picture yourself being wealthy?
When I was a child, I dared to dream big and I had 3 big life dreams: visit New York City, see Legoland in Denmark and the Neuschwanstein Castle in Germany. In my 10 year old mind, I had absolutely no way to conceive how I would achieve any of that. Once I accomplished all 3 dreams, by the age of 22, I was excited but also disappointed. I thought: I’ll never have childhood dreams to strive toward anymore and more importantly, I didn’t know what dream to pursue next. Dreams are not something you rationally decide, they simply come up to the surface when your rational mind is not too busy sending you its own agenda. I thought that I could never fantasize on anything like when I was a child. With my adult mind, there is no way I could set myself an “unattainable” goal again.
Well, all of that changed when I came across Bob Proctor’s teaching. He suggests that we should start from a fantasy, then turn it into a theory, to lastly make it a fact. Without even realizing, I slowly started dreaming like a child and entertaining “unreachable” ideas again. Becoming a millionaire is one. Owning real estate of $1.5 million in Quebec City and $5 million in San Francisco is another one. What I find really amazing is how closed the mind can become to dreaming when exposed to the wrong conditioning. As adults, we learn that we shouldn’t dream because we’re not likely to realize those dreams. What’s sad is that, for most people, this is true. And if you dare to dream a little, and take action to realize your dreams, many people will try to discourage you. Not because they’re evil-minded: simply because they want to protect you from the pain you will feel when you realize that your efforts were in vain.
The most important is therefore to decide to realize your dream at all costs. I’m currently reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker. He says that everything changed for him when he stopped trying different ways of making money and DECIDED that he was going to make ONE way work. Bob Proctor says the same. When you focus all your efforts on ONE project, no matter what it is, you WILL succeed. Of course, adversity and obstacles will come along the way, but if you make up your mind that you will achieve your goal, then you will. I also like T Harv’s way of seeing problems: he says that the problems we face are a matter of personal image. Let’s say that we face a problem that is a level 5 on a difficulty scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest. If we have a level 3 mindset, we’ll see the problem as overwhelming. If we have a level 8 mindset, then the same problem won’t even be a problem at all!
Think of it a different way. When a little girl learns to tie her shoes, and doesn’t succeed, she might start to cry. Failure to tie her shoes, at 5 years old, means feeling ridiculous in front of her peers. When she reaches 12, tying her shows is so mastered that she doesn’t even think about it. But maybe her new challenge is to use the public transportation. If she gets lost somewhere, she’ll start to cry. When she reaches 20, there is now way that getting lost would make her feel overwhelmed, but she has new 20-year-old-level challenges. We need to outgrow our current challenges and circumstances. For some reason, many people stop doing it along the way. But we need to always perceive problems as opportunities to grow higher.
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