When I was a child, I dared to dream big and I had 3 big life dreams: visit New York City, see Legoland in Denmark and the Neuschwanstein Castle in Germany. In my 10 year old mind, I had absolutely no way to conceive how I would achieve any of that. Once I accomplished all 3 dreams, by the age of 22, I was excited but also disappointed. I thought: I’ll never have childhood dreams to strive toward anymore and more importantly, I didn’t know what dream to pursue next. Dreams are not something you rationally decide, they simply come up to the surface when your rational mind is not too busy sending you its own agenda. I thought that I could never fantasize on anything like when I was a child. With my adult mind, there is no way I could set myself an “unattainable” goal again.
Well, all of that changed when I came across Bob Proctor’s teaching. He suggests that we should start from a fantasy, then turn it into a theory, to lastly make it a fact. Without even realizing, I slowly started dreaming like a child and entertaining “unreachable” ideas again. Becoming a millionaire is one. Owning real estate of $1.5 million in Quebec City and $5 million in San Francisco is another one. What I find really amazing is how closed the mind can become to dreaming when exposed to the wrong conditioning. As adults, we learn that we shouldn’t dream because we’re not likely to realize those dreams. What’s sad is that, for most people, this is true. And if you dare to dream a little, and take action to realize your dreams, many people will try to discourage you. Not because they’re evil-minded: simply because they want to protect you from the pain you will feel when you realize that your efforts were in vain.
The most important is therefore to decide to realize your dream at all costs. I’m currently reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker. He says that everything changed for him when he stopped trying different ways of making money and DECIDED that he was going to make ONE way work. Bob Proctor says the same. When you focus all your efforts on ONE project, no matter what it is, you WILL succeed. Of course, adversity and obstacles will come along the way, but if you make up your mind that you will achieve your goal, then you will. I also like T Harv’s way of seeing problems: he says that the problems we face are a matter of personal image. Let’s say that we face a problem that is a level 5 on a difficulty scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest. If we have a level 3 mindset, we’ll see the problem as overwhelming. If we have a level 8 mindset, then the same problem won’t even be a problem at all!
Think of it a different way. When a little girl learns to tie her shoes, and doesn’t succeed, she might start to cry. Failure to tie her shoes, at 5 years old, means feeling ridiculous in front of her peers. When she reaches 12, tying her shows is so mastered that she doesn’t even think about it. But maybe her new challenge is to use the public transportation. If she gets lost somewhere, she’ll start to cry. When she reaches 20, there is now way that getting lost would make her feel overwhelmed, but she has new 20-year-old-level challenges. We need to outgrow our current challenges and circumstances. For some reason, many people stop doing it along the way. But we need to always perceive problems as opportunities to grow higher.
Read my article on Rising Above Your Circumstances to learn more.
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