The Importance to Dream Big

When I was a child, I dared to dream big and I had 3 big life dreams: visit New York City, see Legoland in Denmark and the Neuschwanstein Castle in Germany. In my 10 year old mind, I had absolutely no way to conceive how I would achieve any of that. Once I accomplished all 3 dreams, by the age of 22, I was excited but also disappointed. I thought: I’ll never have childhood dreams to strive toward anymore and more importantly, I didn’t know what dream to pursue next. Dreams are not something you rationally decide, they simply come up to the surface when your rational mind is not too busy sending you its own agenda. I thought that I could never fantasize on anything like when I was a child. With my adult mind, there is no way I could set myself an “unattainable” goal again.

Well, all of that changed when I came across Bob Proctor’s teaching. He suggests that we should start from a fantasy, then turn it into a theory, to lastly make it a fact. Without even realizing, I slowly started dreaming like a child and entertaining “unreachable” ideas again. Becoming a millionaire is one. Owning real estate of $1.5 million in Quebec City and $5 million in San Francisco is another one. What I find really amazing is how closed the mind can become to dreaming when exposed to the wrong conditioning. As adults, we learn that we shouldn’t dream because we’re not likely to realize those dreams. What’s sad is that, for most people, this is true. And if you dare to dream a little, and take action to realize your dreams, many people will try to discourage you. Not because they’re evil-minded: simply because they want to protect you from the pain you will feel when you realize that your efforts were in vain.

The most important is therefore to decide to realize your dream at all costs. I’m currently reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker. He says that everything changed for him when he stopped trying different ways of making money and DECIDED that he was going to make ONE way work. Bob Proctor says the same. When you focus all your efforts on ONE project, no matter what it is, you WILL succeed. Of course, adversity and obstacles will come along the way, but if you make up your mind that you will achieve your goal, then you will. I also like T Harv’s way of seeing problems: he says that the problems we face are a matter of personal image. Let’s say that we face a problem that is a level 5 on a difficulty scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest. If we have a level 3 mindset, we’ll see the problem as overwhelming. If we have a level 8 mindset, then the same problem won’t even be a problem at all!

Think of it a different way. When a little girl learns to tie her shoes, and doesn’t succeed, she might start to cry. Failure to tie her shoes, at 5 years old, means feeling ridiculous in front of her peers. When she reaches 12, tying her shows is so mastered that she doesn’t even think about it. But maybe her new challenge is to use the public transportation. If she gets lost somewhere, she’ll start to cry. When she reaches 20, there is now way that getting lost would make her feel overwhelmed, but she has new 20-year-old-level challenges. We need to outgrow our current challenges and circumstances. For some reason, many people stop doing it along the way. But we need to always perceive problems as opportunities to grow higher.

Read my article on Rising Above Your Circumstances to learn more.

Rising Above Your Circumstances

Rising above your circumstances. Have you ever experienced the flow state? That moment when you feel like time doesn’t exist anymore? You feel like the world is yours and that all obstacles have become opportunities! Well, I did tonight! I visited a friend and we retried one of the Millionaire Mind exercises about the beliefs around money. Questions were flying and the awareness was rising! I said it to another friend this morning and I reconfirmed tonight: you don’t need to know how to get out of your problems, you simply need to raise your awareness to a level above them. I heard Bob Proctor say it a few times, but I never understood this concept to that depth before tonight. Let me explain.

My previous love relationship was one of manipulation and emotional dependence. It was tough and very emotionally painful and draining. But, instead of blaming it all on my ex partner (which I did at first) I eventually recognized that if I was in a manipulative relationship, that’s because I was a manipulative person myself. If I was going back toward someone that caused me pain, that’s because I liked pain, and if I liked pain, that’s because I didn’t value myself enough and thought I deserved the bad treatment. And this is my point: I didn’t have to “learn” how to not be manipulative anymore, I didn’t have to learn how to love myself more, I simply had to become AWARE of the situation, and I gradually came out of it. When you raise your awareness, you move to a higher state ABOVE your problems where you don’t even need to resolve them anymore: they simply dissolve from the source!

How do you raise your awareness? Learn to see the positive in everything. I could very well still see that past relationship as a destructive and painful one. Instead, I choose to see the value it brought to my life and I am grateful for the learning which now allows me to enjoy a new loving and caring relationship. I accepted in me the parts that I didn’t accept of myself. Our relationships and circumstances act as a mirror which tells us what part of ourself we rejected at some point in our life and that we need to integrate again. The more we reintegrate, the more complete we feel. We gradually regain our personal power. And that is the most beautiful feeling I know!

If you want to read more on raising your awareness, please follow this link.

And don’t forget to love yourself!
Martin